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Ok, well not the only reason but it’s a pretty important one… the religious right-wing conservatives who are digging in their heels against progress are dooming themselves to loose the fight with their own faith.

I just recieved an e-mail from NOM – Maggie Gallagher is bent on the idea that same sex marriage is based on a “lie” and is confident that lies always prevail over truth. Well while that idea may hold some weight, the problem is that the ideals behind same-sex marriage are not based on any lies but on basic human decency. We can seperate lies from truth using facts and logic, the rest is just oppinions. Society is progressive – those with bigoted, narrow minded oppinions are slowly being shunned by the world as society moves forward. Of course, those idividuals have every right to hold those oppinions. Crazy as it sounds, I would fight to protect their right to hold those oppinions just as I fight for the right to protect my own. After all, equality is equality. Where I draw the line is when those oppinions impact on the rights and freedoms of others.

Maggie and the NOMs misguided faith will ultimatly be their downfall. While they waste time and effort praying to a nonexistant God, Society will move forward and leave them well behind. Progress will be made in human rights and civil liberties based on facts, logic and decency while those fighting against it will be at home saying prayres while nobody listens.

From the NOM e-mail:
“Help us spread the word! Believe me, we understand that not everyone can give money. We appreciate all you do: your prayers especially”

I couldn’t agree more. To those against same-sex marriage – go home, pray, pray your hearts out. For while you are praying, you can do no harm.

I don’t know how many of you have seen this frightening video from the National Organisation of Marriage:

I won’t pull apart the ad since endthelies.org has already done that, but there’s something else interesting that I noticed after I made a complaint to NOM about the video. I inadvertently signed myself up to their mailing list while complaining and I received an e-mail from Maggie Gallagher asking me to watch a clip of her appearance on Hardball. Let’s watch the video:

Other than the fact that this video is really an embarrassment to Maggie (she surely gets slated by Joe and is obviously so scared of loosing her footing that she is left with no choice but to blatantly interrupt him – nice discussion tactics there Maggie!) I thought that I’d point out the less than obvious contradiction that Maggie makes here.

Maggie tries to make the point that she is OK with same sex couples, and that she wishes “Ray and Tommy all the best”. She then says that “A lot of things are going to change for our children and grandchildren” but fails to state exactly what will change and what the effect of this will be. Going back to the advert, let’s take the quote “I’m a Massachusetts parent, watching helplessly while public schools teach my child that gay marriage is okay.”

So what are the effects of teaching children that same-sex marriage is OK? So far I have heard not a single negative effect of teaching this to children. The advert is simply fear mongering. It does a good job of making the association in the mind of Children and negativity without actually saying what these negative effects are.

Let’s look at the positive. By teaching children not to discriminate, we might get a step or two closer to stopping tragedies such as the death of Eric Mohat, the boy who committed suicide after a torrent of homophobic bullying. Currently, by teaching kids that same sex couples are different from opposite sex couples and do not deserve the same civil rights, we are sending them the message that hey, it’s OK to discriminate against these people, it’s OK to push them aside and bully them.

Eric was involved in theater and music, was called "gay," "fag," "queer" and "homo" and often in front of his teachers.

Eric was involved in theater and music, was called "gay," "fag," "queer" and "homo" and often in front of his teachers.

So Maggie, do you wish “All the best” to a future generation of homosexual children, or will you continue to tell them they are inadequate and unequal, at the risk of further teen suicides?

I stumbled accross this today in my daily internet hopping…

‘Mormons have every right to hate the idea of gay marriage. They’re welcome to find it detestable, abominable, a sin, whatever. That’s religious freedom.

‘Mormons also have every right to preach and speak out against gay marriage. That’s religious free speech.’

‘But Mormons don’t have the right to force their religious beliefs on everyone else by engineering and paying 20 million dollars for a secular voter initiative that stole the already existing right of gays to marry in California. That’s religious fascism.’

‘Any time you use the tax-exempt wealth and political power of America’s religious majority to create any secular law that forces any religious belief on everyone else, that’s religious fascism. It’s evil, and it violates the ‘establishment clause’ of the First Amendment.’

Just thought I would re-post it to get the message out – any religions, Mormons, Christians, Muslims, etc should have a long hard think about this… and it’s not only in America.

After plugging my website about Gay Marriage and the Catholic Church on Facebook (which I will talk about in more detail in a future post, probably the next one) I have been contacted by a number of people supporting my work. Recently one of those messages contained a link to a blog:

The Argent Wall

Having read the first post I was simply going to link to it as it looked very good and well written, but reading on, I found that the whole blog deserved more than that so I am creating a whole post about it. In particular this article stood out:

http://argentwall.blogspot.com/2009/01/homosexuality-and-shame-how-shame-turns.html

A topic which I have never tackled before or seen tackeled. I highly reccommend reading this post (and more of the blog if you have time). I believe it explains a lot about the shame that homosexual people are made to feel, and the effect this has on us. I even felt it explained a few things about me that I hadn’t even considered before!

Lastly I would just like to express thanks to the author for an excellent resource. Looking forward to more great work in future!

Why do people still believe that homosexuality is a choice? I don’t understand why this concept is so complicated, it’s really not.

Opponants to Gay Rights constantly try to argue that homosexuality is a choice that we make. I have heard too many times that it is a “disorder”, a lifestyle we “choose” to lead. I’ll discuss this after the jump, but first let me take this oppertunity to poke fun at Sarah Palin:

There are so many reasons why homosexuality not a choice, at least not in the choice that one can choose to be homosexual or choose not to be homosexual. Reasons that any reasonable person with a working sense of logic should be able to understand.

The first and most obvious one is, if we were able to choose not to be gay, why do we not do so and thus avoid the harm that often comes to us because of it? From the social stigma that comes with homosexuality to the most extreme cases (South African women getting raped for being lesbians, homosexual people being handed the death penalty in Islamic countries) we can see that it is not about making a choice. If it was as simple as making a choice, would it not stand to reason that the people involved would simply choose not to be homosexual rather than face these terrible things?

Homosexuality

Lets look at what our choices are based on. Why do we choose one thing over another? Given the choice between steamed broccoli and chocolate fudge cake, I’d go for the fudge cake. I know that the cake is bad for me and the broccoli is good for me – so why do I choose the cake? It’s because I like the cake and I do not like broccoli. If we could choose what we like and what we dislike, dieting would be a breeze and we would have almost no difficulty in teaching our kids to eat healthy food! Wouldn’t that be nice?
The same logic can be applied to homosexuality. I like girls. I do not like guys. Given the choice between a guy and a girl, I would choose the girl. Just like I can’t change the fact that I dislike broccoli, I cannot change the fact that the thought of being intimate with a man disgusts me. I choose to be with the girl based on likes and dislikes that I cannot change.

Mmmmm cake!

Mmmmm cake!

One thing argued by those claiming that homosexuality is a choice is that there is no scientific evidence to suggest that homosexuals are born this way – therefore it must be a choice. This assumption is based on flawed logic. There are many things about us that were not set at or before birth, but are beyond our control. Going back to likes and dislikes, I think you would be hard pressed to prove that my dislike for brocoli has anything to do with my genes!

Here’s food for thought for all the straight people who still think homosexuality is a choice. Imagine that one day you were transported to a world where homosexuality was the norm. Only homosexuals can get married. Only two people of the same sex can procreate. People who choose different-sex partners are stigmatised and frowned upon. Put yourself in that picture. Now, can you honstly tell me that you could simply choose to be intimate with somebody of the same sex and be content with that?

Side Note:
What about transexual people? There are cases of people undergoing sex reassignment surgery and then having to have their marriage annulled becuase same-sex marriages are illegal, even when their partner is still attracted to and willing to stay married after said operation.
How does sexual orientation apply to transexuals? Should a TS person have to change their sexual orientation when they change their sex?
Being transexual myself, I grew up thinking that I was a straight male. By my teens I came to the realisation that in my mind I am actually female, so I went about changing my sex through SRS. Throughout this entire process my sexual preferences never changed. I remain attracted to females, but I am not allowed to marry one as I was before my surgery. I could get married to a male, but since sexuality is not linked to physical sex and cannot be changed through surgery, I cannot find myself attracted to males. By changing sex I have lost the right to get married to the person I love. How can this be justified?

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